You’re stressed out. In fact, you’ve never been this stressed in your entire life, and you thought this was going to be easy! Your mother needed some help. Maybe she was hospitalized following a minor heart attack or even major surgery. The doctor admonished her to have support ready when she was discharged and you volunteered to help her.
You never considered yourself a caregiver at that time, but you are.
As a family caregiver, you have an intimate relationship with this other person and you might feel it’s your responsibility to take care of him or her, but you will still experience stress. When you’re taking care of your mother, that stress can begin infiltrating your life in many ways.
You might be concerned about her safety.
You may notice her trying to do things around the house that are simply unreasonable, at least in your opinion. You see her trying to get something down from a high shelf or closet. Maybe she pulls the kitchen chair over to the counter to get something down from the cabinets.
When you’re concerned about her safety, you will likely try to do everything for her.
The more people begin relying on help for these tasks, the more often they begin calling on that assistance time and time again. That starts to increase the demand on your time, thus keeping you from getting things done that are important to you, ultimately ratcheting up the stress in your life.
So what’s the best decision as a stressed-out caregiver?
The best thing you can do at this point in your life is sit down and talk to your mother about the situation. Be honest about the limits on your time. Let her know how stressed out you are. She may dismiss your concerns and even tell you, “I understand, and I was doing fine for a while on my own.”
But you know that’s not true. You know she still needs help, but more than you can give her.
That’s when you can sit down and talk about the prospect of hiring a home care aide.
She might not want to hear it at first, but when she begins calling you for help and you tell her you simply don’t have the time right now, remind her that a home care aide could be there on her schedule, when she needs that person’s assistance.
If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring professional home care to reduce caregiver stress in Mesa, AZ, please contact the caring staff at SYNERGY HomeCare today: 480-377-6770.
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